Ian KernerShe Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman (Kerner)

every man and woman interested in improving their romance should get this book and read it. explains a lot, shows a lot and helps a lot

Great information for anyone looking to better their knowledge of the female orgasm. Married 10+ years and still found a better understanding of how important this is to my wife.

The amount of times the reader is told that the author is a “premature ejaculator” is almost limitless.

The person who read it, enjoyed it and said it was very helpful. I may buy it for myself.

This book taught me that my orgasim is different than a man’s. The approach, climax, and recovery. Now I have multiple, deep, fulfilling organisms before he finishes. This book, + the next + OMGYes. Highly recommend!

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Looked at as an inspirational piece this is a great book. However, when taken as an operator's manual it subdues the most important ingredient, sensitivity to your partner. A gentleman's library should not be without the book, but it is reference book, not the bible of great oral sex, the kind that has the neighbors calling the police out of concern for the screams.For openers, it's a wonderful subject. Judging from other reviews and comments from female friends there has been a near total failure of our educational system. Perhaps it began in the 60's with "Let's Get It On" without taking the care (and without enjoying the ecstasy) of a totally satisfied partner.I thank grldvr for bringing this to my attention.My reservations are primarily focused on the author's insistence on a single path to Valhalla......... But what are we, billions of different people , different sizes , shapes, moods etc. The list is endless. And with the same person there is a time when only the most patient and measured approach will achieve spectacular results while on another day you may be summoned to pull the car over , find some soft grass and spend only a few minutes before the pleasure becomes volcanic. Pilot's call it situational awareness. others call it moods....... there's a time when the mind if the woman is filled with all kinds of stuff conflicts, kids, dinner, what to wear, finances ( a real problem today) and the proper (and fun) approach may linger on toes for a considerable length of time and moving very slowly. At the other end of the spectrum just because dinner will be ready to be pulled from the oven in 15 minutes does not mean that you should deny her mood for an oral quickie, which can also achieve great results IF your partner is truly in the mood.There are many good parts of the book. The discussion of all the wonderful parts of our partners is enlightening and useful. Perhaps a few larger drawings would have been better.Knowing ones way around the promised land is certainly beneficial but taking the same path every day may not lead to the most fruitful experience. There's very little discussion about the partner's response. One of the great ways to communicate and share pleasure is to use a gentle tap to indicate "that is good" . The beauty of the system is that it only has positive inputs. I think it also puts the woman in closer touch with her feelings and while too many women feel that they have to be constantly pleasing their man, this provides them participation while focusing on their pleasure.The author is spot on when it comes to assuring a woman that pleasuring her in this wonderful way brings pleasure to you. The second critical assurance is that this is a magnificent voyage, not a rush to the destination and that you will not abandon or rush her along the way. Just as we suffer from occasional performance anxiety, few things make it more difficult for the woman than the feeling you have allocated n minutes to this project.But then the author, in my mind , goes far astray in his positions. First the body types of the couple make some differences. He has the man laying on top of the woman's legs which are closed at one point. For many this would be uncomfortable. Couples can find their own most comfortable positions when they understand the psychology of the subject. The edge of the bed, shower, woman on top all deserve to be explored.Overall the book talks too much about tiny details on a single path approach. It's like a text for a ten week course. Far too complicated. The details may serve as a reference when you hit a stumbling block.

“She Comes First” is very highly recommended. It has opened my eyes. It has significantly increased my confidence. It has made me a much better partner/lover.I stumbled upon the book while searching for "The Joy of Sex." At the time, I was newly divorced and in search of direction prior to re-entering the dating world. Based on the reviews, I purchased both books. Unfortunately, I read TJS first. It was somewhat enlightening, but nothing I would recommend. After sitting in my desk for more than a year, I read SCF. It was an eye-opener. I never realized how little I knew about the female anatomy. After reading the book I better understood why over the years women said I was "too fast" and/or "too rough."Although I was a little overwhelmed at times with the technical aspects of the book, the first time I put the techniques into practice I was shocked how easy it was to step up my game. I made a VERY GOOD first impression with the new woman in my life. The responses to my moves were overwhelming. For the first time, I felt like I knew what I was doing. Throughout the night and in to the early morning, I always prioritized her. My contentment took her by surprise. I truly focused on savoring all aspects of pleasing her instead of worrying about my needs/desires. Since this was our first time together, this approach went a long way towards allaying her concerns that my interest might be short-term. As a result, I have laid the ground work for building a key facet for a strong, long-term “relationship.” I stress relationship because the book is about much more than sex. It's a paradigm shift.Unfortunately, my ex-wife will never experience the benefits of my enlightenment. Our sex life was very routine/dull. Although SCF wouldn't have saved our marriage, it might have eliminated an Achilles heel we never discussed.++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++P.S. - The more I practice, the better I be"come." So far, my record is providing five orgasms in one day, across two sessions. I have discovered three ways to GUARANTEE results. I have gone from an amatuer to an expert. Trust me, the techniques work wonders. MOST IMPORTANTLY, my insecurities are gone. Also, by prioritizing my lady-friend, I have rightly made her feel very special. SHE ALWAYS COMES FIRST, in and outside of the bed!!! This makes my life easier and enhances our relationship :-)+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++P.P.S. - As recommended, candle light is essential!!!