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# Don't Let Your Kids Kill You: A Guide for Parents of Drug and Alcohol Addicted Children

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This is a self-help recovery guide for parents in the devastating situation of realizing that they are powerless to stop their children from self-destruction through drug and/or alcohol abuse. It is dedicated to letting parents know when it is time to start saving themselves from being dragged along to destruction as well, and to providing skills that prevent it. The book relies on spiritual but practical teachings and the message is for parents to attain a healthy balance in their lives through the letting go process. While showing parents how to safely distance themselves from the child's destructive patterns, it also shows how to recognize and support healthy requests for real help, if and when they come. It includes anecdotes and quotes from parents who have had to cope with kids on drugs and/or alcohol.

Review: I found this book to be a wonderful lifeline just when I needed it - It's Friday night and I find myself standing at the edge of this horrible black chasm. I'm beginning to realize I may have to make a choice between my alcoholic child and myself. I can't believe I am even considering this but my doctor is becoming concerned. If my blood pressure doesn't improve she is suggesting medication, if my cholesterol doesn't improve she is suggesting medication, if my blood sugar keeps moving in the direction it is trending she is suggesting insulin. She is telling me I must reduce the stress in my life. I can't remember the last time I was able to sit in my home and enjoy a peaceful evening. Ever vigilant to the sounds coming from my adult child's home next door. Is the yelling just a loud tv program or is she and the boyfriend du jour having another fight. Is the crash I hear something or someone being thrown against the wall or just a door being closed too hard? It's late and I hear her car start up. Is she already drunk and heading out for more or is she heading to the bar to get blackout drunk and drive home that way? Should I call the police and warn them she is driving drunk and endangering everyone else on the road? Another promise has been broken and this time in such a cruel way I feel it is so personal but the other realization I am coming to is that it has nothing to do with me. She hasn't thought or worried about anyone but herself for a very long time. She is so deep in her addiction that's all she can see now and the loving thoughtful child I used to know is gone, lost in the alcoholic mist. How can I abandon her but how can I go on living like this? She cries, she promises, she claims to need me but it is becoming more and more clear she only needs me to use when it suits her and we are both growing sicker every day in this awful dance we do. I feel like I am standing on the curb watching this horrible crash beginning to unfold and there is nothing I can do to prevent it. All I can do is stand there and pray there is something left to salvage when it is over. I turn to the internet to look for help, answers, comfort, something and I stumble across this book. I order the sample for my kindle and as soon as I have finished it I order the book. I read into the night. I am brought to tears when the author talks about losing the family he remembers. I too have been mourning the loss of the times we were together laughing so hard our sides hurt, sharing delicious meals and playing games together. It's all gone now. I've lost my son to alcohol and now my daughter is slipping away. I read on and see my own life in the pages of this book and am so relieved to find out I am not the only one facing this heart breaking, gut wrenching choice. I'm not the only one struggling with the feelings of guilt and anger. I find the practical suggestions helpful and the realization that I am not the only parent standing on the edge of this awful chasm helps me calm and begin to think about what I am willing and able to do and what I am no longer willing or able to do. I highly recommend this to anyone loving and trying to live with an alcoholic.
Review: Spot on - If you love an addicted child, the world as you know it turns on it's end. The parenting techniques you knew, become tools your addict will use against you, thereby engaging you in helping them kill themselves. The emotional jiu jitsu you must go through, sometimes on a minute to minute basis, is like a frustration nightmare that you can not awaken from. But it's real. This book really was spot on. For those who are new to this, perhaps this book seems harsh or unloving. 9 years ago, I would have been appalled. What do you mean I can't manipulate, nag, follow around, call all their friends, set up meetings, get their sponsors for them, etc? Of course I can and I will! You may say, I rather believe books like "How To Get Your Loved One Sober", where they tell you YOU can help them by modifying your and their behavior with motivational techniques. I am here to tell you 1st hand, this is absolutely not true. Perhaps if you have a high-functioning alcoholic you're dealing with, it might work for a time. But at what cost? Yes, we'd all love to run along in our lives as a co-dependent to someone else's life journey, giving up our energy to make sure we dupe them into not taking that drink. Why worry about our own lives? Besides, anyone who has loved an addict knows you can not "motivate" your addict to change. What works is your own program (leading by example), keeping up your energy to be able to deal with their constant crises when they inevitably come (often rapid-fire), and healthy boundaries. And I'm not talking pansy boundaries. No way. The boundaries necessary to help your addict are ones that will make you feel as if you're rather have your skin peeled off you then set them. Let alone uphold them in the face of the rage, tearful pleading, fear and guilt that will be heaped upon you every time you pick up your phone or let them in. I have read this book all the way through in one sitting...2 times. I have also read earmarked pages as needed to help gird my loins in the face of the tsunami that is my beloved addict. It hits the nail on the head, helps you not feel so alone, gives you concise steps to take, clear self help suggestions and is short and to the point without missing one important facet. To date I have not read a book on dealing with you addict that I have loved more. And there have been a lot of them. Thank you for writing this book.

## Technical Specifications

| Specification | Value |
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| Best Sellers Rank | #87,465 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #41 in Drug Dependency & Recovery (Books) #95 in Substance Abuse Recovery #146 in Parenting Teenagers (Books) |
| Customer Reviews | 4.7 out of 5 stars 1,321 Reviews |

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## Customer Reviews

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ I found this book to be a wonderful lifeline just when I needed it
*by J***T on May 15, 2016*

It's Friday night and I find myself standing at the edge of this horrible black chasm. I'm beginning to realize I may have to make a choice between my alcoholic child and myself. I can't believe I am even considering this but my doctor is becoming concerned. If my blood pressure doesn't improve she is suggesting medication, if my cholesterol doesn't improve she is suggesting medication, if my blood sugar keeps moving in the direction it is trending she is suggesting insulin. She is telling me I must reduce the stress in my life. I can't remember the last time I was able to sit in my home and enjoy a peaceful evening. Ever vigilant to the sounds coming from my adult child's home next door. Is the yelling just a loud tv program or is she and the boyfriend du jour having another fight. Is the crash I hear something or someone being thrown against the wall or just a door being closed too hard? It's late and I hear her car start up. Is she already drunk and heading out for more or is she heading to the bar to get blackout drunk and drive home that way? Should I call the police and warn them she is driving drunk and endangering everyone else on the road? Another promise has been broken and this time in such a cruel way I feel it is so personal but the other realization I am coming to is that it has nothing to do with me. She hasn't thought or worried about anyone but herself for a very long time. She is so deep in her addiction that's all she can see now and the loving thoughtful child I used to know is gone, lost in the alcoholic mist. How can I abandon her but how can I go on living like this? She cries, she promises, she claims to need me but it is becoming more and more clear she only needs me to use when it suits her and we are both growing sicker every day in this awful dance we do. I feel like I am standing on the curb watching this horrible crash beginning to unfold and there is nothing I can do to prevent it. All I can do is stand there and pray there is something left to salvage when it is over. I turn to the internet to look for help, answers, comfort, something and I stumble across this book. I order the sample for my kindle and as soon as I have finished it I order the book. I read into the night. I am brought to tears when the author talks about losing the family he remembers. I too have been mourning the loss of the times we were together laughing so hard our sides hurt, sharing delicious meals and playing games together. It's all gone now. I've lost my son to alcohol and now my daughter is slipping away. I read on and see my own life in the pages of this book and am so relieved to find out I am not the only one facing this heart breaking, gut wrenching choice. I'm not the only one struggling with the feelings of guilt and anger. I find the practical suggestions helpful and the realization that I am not the only parent standing on the edge of this awful chasm helps me calm and begin to think about what I am willing and able to do and what I am no longer willing or able to do. I highly recommend this to anyone loving and trying to live with an alcoholic.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Spot on
*by E***Y on January 6, 2020*

If you love an addicted child, the world as you know it turns on it's end. The parenting techniques you knew, become tools your addict will use against you, thereby engaging you in helping them kill themselves. The emotional jiu jitsu you must go through, sometimes on a minute to minute basis, is like a frustration nightmare that you can not awaken from. But it's real. This book really was spot on. For those who are new to this, perhaps this book seems harsh or unloving. 9 years ago, I would have been appalled. What do you mean I can't manipulate, nag, follow around, call all their friends, set up meetings, get their sponsors for them, etc? Of course I can and I will! You may say, I rather believe books like "How To Get Your Loved One Sober", where they tell you YOU can help them by modifying your and their behavior with motivational techniques. I am here to tell you 1st hand, this is absolutely not true. Perhaps if you have a high-functioning alcoholic you're dealing with, it might work for a time. But at what cost? Yes, we'd all love to run along in our lives as a co-dependent to someone else's life journey, giving up our energy to make sure we dupe them into not taking that drink. Why worry about our own lives? Besides, anyone who has loved an addict knows you can not "motivate" your addict to change. What works is your own program (leading by example), keeping up your energy to be able to deal with their constant crises when they inevitably come (often rapid-fire), and healthy boundaries. And I'm not talking pansy boundaries. No way. The boundaries necessary to help your addict are ones that will make you feel as if you're rather have your skin peeled off you then set them. Let alone uphold them in the face of the rage, tearful pleading, fear and guilt that will be heaped upon you every time you pick up your phone or let them in. I have read this book all the way through in one sitting...2 times. I have also read earmarked pages as needed to help gird my loins in the face of the tsunami that is my beloved addict. It hits the nail on the head, helps you not feel so alone, gives you concise steps to take, clear self help suggestions and is short and to the point without missing one important facet. To date I have not read a book on dealing with you addict that I have loved more. And there have been a lot of them. Thank you for writing this book.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Must read for parents of addicted children.
*by M***R on January 26, 2025*

Our adoptive son has chosen the dark path of drugs, like his bios. This book as been the most encouraging thing I've read. As with a lot of adoptive kiddos, there are underlying mental health and attachment issues, but until the addiction is addressed, they can't begin to heal. We, parents, have to heal. We have to recognize a lot of it (if not all) is not our fault. What could we really change? We can't make them do the right thing. I've highlighted many sections over and over in this book and read it regularly. The one thing I can and will do is always pray for my son. But the only person I have control over, is me.

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