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title: "When I Say No, I Feel Guilty: How to Cope--Using the Skills of Systematic Assertive Therapy Mass Market Paperback – 31 Dec. 1975"
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# When I Say No, I Feel Guilty: How to Cope--Using the Skills of Systematic Assertive Therapy Mass Market Paperback – 31 Dec. 1975

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- **What is this?** When I Say No, I Feel Guilty: How to Cope--Using the Skills of Systematic Assertive Therapy Mass Market Paperback – 31 Dec. 1975 by manuel j. smith
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## Technical Specifications

| Specification | Value |
|---------------|-------|
| Best Sellers Rank | #39,477 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #135 in Self-Esteem (Books) #195 in Communication & Social Skills (Books) #716 in Personal Transformation Self-Help |
| Customer Reviews | 4.4 4.4 out of 5 stars (1,438) |
| Dimensions  | 4.16 x 0.89 x 6.83 inches |
| Edition  | Reissue |
| ISBN-10  | 0553263900 |
| ISBN-13  | 978-0553263909 |
| Item Weight  | 5.6 ounces |
| Language  | English |
| Print length  | 352 pages |
| Publication date  | February 1, 1975 |
| Publisher  | Bantam |

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## Customer Reviews

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ easy to read; surprisingly effective and uplifting
*by J***1 on 23 October 2012*

They should teach this in schools.If you are looking for genuine "self help" answers, as I was, then this may be what you are looking for.I haven't even read the whole book, but have found the early part much more helpful than I expected. I didn't realise how unassertive I was most of the time, and I didn't realise just how important and liberating it is to be assertive. And it isn't as difficult as I thought it would be.The style/language is slightly dated but I found that I soon stopped noticing this, or didn't notice it often. It is easy to read and understand.It is a practical manual, with achievable techniques, set out very clearly, and with repeated examples. I found the names of the techniques slightly distracting, and maybe they are set out in a slightly clumsy way, but it is easy to get the idea of what you are meant to do.It has helped me in two ways-1. it helped me to interact effectively with other people2. (unexpected) it has made me more confident and comfortable with my own views, more confident in myself.I haven't read any other assertiveness books so can't comment on these - I have been tempted to look at some, as I want to get as good at this as I can, but I haven't yet, and maybe I don't need to. Am I ready to give up my self help addiction?...So: this one genuinely could change your life.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ One of the best and most useful.
*by P***N on 7 September 2010*

I read and then studied this book over 20 years ago. Since then I have looked at similar works that are more complex sometimes using more oblique terms and concepts. This remains in my humble opinion the most useful and practical work on improving a person's ability to effectively communicate and cope with others at all ages in life.As a means of lessening anxiety in social situations this work if practiced and made part of your way of behaving will greatly improve your ability to get along with people.Even if your a confident, mostly non anxious person, an indepth study of this work with a lot of practice will bring an even greater sense of being able to cope with most social situations.It covers all aspects of conflict resolution in peer groups, be it with family, friends, fellow workers, between kids, between you and your kids.It shows you how to do what you want, if not all the time, then at least some of the time no matter who are dealing with or what the situation may be.It is not about control as you can't control anyone without bullying. It is about confidently using your human ability to cope and adapt and ultimately to verbally communicate with other people in an effective way that leaves you feeling and knowing you were not manipulated emotionally or bullied.Remember this is about social, mostly civilized situations, not for when dealing with nutters or muggers.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐ Life changing book
*by M***L on 30 June 2013*

I loved this book. A lot of my problems are due to lack of assertiveness so I was pleased to find it. The book gives different techniques to use in order to become more assertive. The book uses dialogues so you can see how you can apply the techniques to different areas in life.I particularly found the fogging technique and the negative assertion technique useful; the section on job interviews was also very helpful.I have given this book four stars as opposed to five because I felt the dialogues dragged it bit. But saying this, I do feel it drove the message home.It was a bit old fashioned as it was written in the seventies, but all of the lessons can be applied to modern day life.

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