The Cow in the Parking Lot: A Zen Approach to Overcoming Anger

Anger is part of most of our lives. Most or ua would prefer to drop anger if it can be. Easier said than done. This is an effective book and after you complete reading the book, you might not be the same person.

Practical and deep rooted solution to anger, if practiced as explained. Must read for everyone as everyone gets angry, some more, some less.

Lawyer-Anger-Tranquility. Now that's a combination we don't see much even in show business. This capsule (prefer to call so instead of a book) for anger is an OTC medicine without needing therapist prescriptions. The medicine hails from a strong scientific background, the Buddha's teachings. Few excerpts quoted by the author created a long lasting impression on the subject - "Anger is as good at solving problems, as a fan at stacking papers"; "Only I can make me angry"Really glad to have it on Audible where the Narrator Bill Medieta brings life to the Authors' thoughts especially with his voice modulations. There seemed to have a few instances of exaggerations and stereotypes but overall, a recommended read from a successful lawyer/attorney who keeps trying to change anger into compassion

Makes you to think differently

First of all, its concise and written with a great simplified language and examples are good. No one is trying to convert you into a monk. The expectations from you is not much. Just read the book and you will find a lot of things melt away. Here are some points from this book I want to remember.- Hate is ossified anger. In other terms to hate is to give other people rent-free stay in your mind.- When someone is angry at you, take a deep breath. Look at their eyes and cues before responding. You don't have to react right away. Give a sense of space between you and the angry person. They are hurting themselves more than you.- Not every angry remark made by someone has to be responded to. Just because someone abused you verbally, it does not mean your name has been marred. If you choose not to respond, you are are in a better place. If at a different instance, someone is blaming you, you dont have to justify yourself to them.- You can take it any way you like but the ultimate aim in your day and space should be to belong to the now. The further away you drift from the now into the future and the past, you will experience some kind of longing, remorse, depression so it is important to be present in the now with your mind still and fortified.- We often experience third bear anger. This means we are often faced by either expressing third party anger on an unsuspecting victim or are dealt in such a way. It is important to be mindful about people.- You will not be able to get by without understanding humans a little better. You need to show interest in other people's space and be willing to give.- “The practice of patience means not returning threats, anger, attacks or insults. But this does not mean being purely passive. Instead we use the other person’s energy, as in judo. . . . Our response is self-defensive in the sense that we do not return such a person’s threat, and at the same time we prevent further aggression by allowing the other person’s own energy to undercut itself.”- “In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities; in the expert’s mind there are few.”- “Using anger to solve a problem is like grabbing a red-hot coal to throw at the other person.” You get burnt first.Lastly, the stories of zen monks was enlightening.I am on a quest to reduce my anger. It mostly shows up when I drive. It shows when a client annoys me. I have already been more patient and kind. Being a better listener. It has helped in people being made to feel appreciated versus ignored. You have to open your domain and not be a fixed mindset person.I will read more books on anger. This one was quite a good one.

Though the content in the book is very good. Its the fit and finish of the book which is just not acceptable. It looks very much like a copy of original book . Pages are uneven, not aligned properly, print quality is below par.