The Confidence Code for Girls: Taking Risks, Messing Up, & Becoming Your Amazingly Imperfect, Totally Powerful Self Kindle Edition

This book is absolutely amazing and a really fun read. We originally got this at the library and of all the books we have read from the library we have never gone and gotten a copy for ourselves to keep but they were so many things in this book I kept referring to as well as things we kept discussing after reading it that we wanted to read it again together. One thing I will note is that a lot of the negative reviews are specific to kids that have confidence issues possibly because they are queer. It astounds me to this day that people do not understand that kids who are queer have a enormously higher suicide rate then non-queer kids, mostly because their families do not accept them for who they are nor would they likely be open to even hearing who they are. It's really sad to me that people from conservative families think that gayness is somehow not biological. It's like rejecting a kid for being born with freckles or red hair. At any rate if you are a parent who loves your child regardless of their biological traits, this book will be right up your alley. I learned a lot from it myself and it really helped my daughter when dealing with some difficult situations at school. There are a lot of kids these days who don't really understand boundaries and consent and this is a book that really takes a deep dive into that. Yes there is mention of cell phones and she is still too young to have one at 11 years old for our family, but I do acknowledge and do not judge other families who need their kids to have one for their own reasons. We read those parts anyway to prepare her for when she has a cell phone. Anyway I can't recommend this book enough and the accompanying journal. And I will pray for all the people who are on here leaving negative reviews simply because they have been taught to fear anything that isn't fitting into their tiny little box. Actually I won't pray for them but I will pray for their kids. I hope they find the acceptance and love they deserve, whether they are straight, gay, or somewhere in between.

Heard this book was great; got it for my 11-yr old daughters, and that weekend they both set all new personal best times at a swim meet. When I asked them how they did that, they said because they read the Confidence Code for Girls! They said they thought about facing and racing and besting their fears! This book is no set of empty platitudes, it's actual real-life knowledge about how awesome girls are despite a history of cultural bias, and also about neuroplasticity and Title IX and the perils of screen addiction.It revs the reader up to be a "Girl of Action," through compelling stories conveying the importance of being yourself and valuing yourself and making yourself heard; the benefits of playing team sports (more open to trying and more resilient to failing, more likely to graduate college, and to earn lucrative salaries in typically male-dominated fields); the benefits of friendship (lowers heart disease, produces oxytocin, limits stress, lengthens life); and includes plenty of fun suggestions as to how to go about making new friendships. With super cute illustrations. I love this book, and think every girl in the world should read it.

The Confidence Code for Girls is an essential read for every girl in her tween years. By bringing attention to girls’ inner experience of gaining and utilizing confidence, the authors not only clearly identify what confidence is comprised of, they guide and instruct the reader on how to cultivate it by challenging the common obstacles of this age. Quite similar to the cognitive-behavioral approach of therapy, this book encourages girls to take action despite unhelpful thinking patterns, to be unafraid of failure, and to challenge the worries that hold so many girls back in a real and direct way. It also provides excellent guidance on how to navigate the often judgmental and provoking world of social media. Presented in a relatable and engaging manner, girls will develop a much deeper understanding of what it means to be themselves and express that confidently. My experience as a psychologist specializing in anxiety has taught me that just as anxiety breeds self-doubt, self-doubt breeds anxiety, and the opposite of both is confidence. I am inspired by what the authors have done in offering such a tremendous guidebook that I am sure tween girls will reference time and time again in their journey to forming a solid, confident self.

My daughter had been sharing some negative self talk with me. I can talk to her until I’m bourbon the face but she needs to hear it from somewhere else and also find the voice from the inside. This was great. It has some interactive sections, a section on social media and affirmations to say weekly. My daughter keeps this book in her nightstand even though she read it over a month ago.

I thought this book was for adults to understand how to help girls gain more confidence, but it’s actually written for tween girls to read themselves. Girls begin to lose their confidence as they grow up because they can see that girls aren’t treated equally or given access to the same opportunities as boys. (What will it take to pass the Equal Rights Amendment in America?) This message is conveyed over and over until girls feel that their voices and their rights aren’t as important as boy’s. I don’t know how many girls will read an entire book that basically tells them they’re not alone and gives them encouragement to be their awesome selves, but I hope they do. I wish I’d had this book to read growing up. This book does mention alternative sexuality, which some feel is inappropriate, but it’s all around us now and acceptance and not making it a big deal are the best ways to address it, in my opinion.

I started early and bought it for my 6.5 year old telling her it is foe when she gets older and needs help navigating tricky stuff with friends. She started reading it and wanted to spend time with her book every night instead of being read to for a whole week. Really intrigued by the ideas presented in the book. Hard to say how they will help shape her when she is faced with her own issues but hopefully exposure will help.

if you have tweens or teens at home you must buy this book.My ten year old daughter got so much out of this book.

I purchased the book for my 10 year old granddaughter who was having some problems and thought that it would be of benefit to her. What benefit it has been is yet to be determined but she really enjoyed it. She is a hard person to satisfy with reading materials.

It's bad.

Have purchased this for my girls ages 8 and 10. Probably not quite for the 8 year old just yet due to some big words (for reading by herself) so I’ve put it away for my 10 year olds birthday next week. Upon skimming through the content looks great and the way it’s written will be relatable to young girls. Looking forward to her gaining some new and great info.

Excellent book, my 8yr old grandaughter loves it!